BLOG APRIL 20, 2023 SELF-BLAME: WHY DO WE BLAME OURSELVES WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG? I was having a conversation with someone and we were discussing why we blame ourselves for things that are not our fault yet we blame ourselves so I thought I would blog on this topic to give you a better understanding of why we self-blame, how it shows up and how we can we can heal from toxic self-blaming. Self-blame isn’t a bad thing. It’s the guilt or shame that keeps us from hurting others and lets us learn from our mistakes. It helps us to be more empathetic toward one another. How many of you…

Being Stuck October 13, 2022 Ladies, have you ever been stuck in life? Do you know why you are stuck? I would like to share one of the areas where I have been stuck. I was stuck 2017. It was one of the worst years of my life. My stepson committed suicide, there was a fire where I live and had to evacuate for a week and then there was the Las Vegas shooting which my daughter was at. Three major things happened that year which caused me lots of anxiety and a bit of depression. My anxiety was so bad that I had to address it and started doing…

SLOWING DOWN MAY 24, 2021   Are you the type of person who is driven and works 60-80 hours per week, and you don’t allow yourself time to rest? Do you go from thing to the next thing, and don’t allow yourself to slow down in between? Do you live a life in constant stress? I think a lot of people live this way. I am one of those people. How many of you give yourself permission to slow down? Why do you feel you need to go, go, go or do, do, do? When you are able to slow down, you are decreasing mental stress. Your mind isn’t always…

Hello beautiful ladies.  Welcome to I Got Your Back Girlfriend. I am your host Natasha Burke, and I am excited to share my podcast with you because it’s my passion and calling to serve and support women. I wanted to work with women who came from abuse because I knew how women felt, being beaten down and not being in their power. So I took a 40-hour state mandated course and for three years I facilitated women’s groups. I heard lots of stories. I learned the art of listening. I witnessed women rise from the ashes and reclaim their power back. At the same time,  I was able to heal…

January 5, 2021 Hello 2021. It’s so exciting to be able to start new ideas, let go of things that no longer serve us and think about what we want to bring into our lives. At the end of each year, I go inward and reflect on my year.  My intentions for 2020 was to travel and to promote my book and Women Empower Each Other Guide for organizations that work with teen girls and women.  In February I was preparing for a women’s one-day retreat on being enough. There was no retreat.  I went through all this mind fuck stuff of not being good enough, why didn’t it happen and…

Written by Natasha Burke  November 13, 2O20 Are you one of those people who has to be perfect? Who has to do everything perfectly? Who has to look perfect? I am one of those who is recovering from being a perfectionist. It’s no easy task but I constantly remind myself, I don’t have look or be  perfect at everything I do.  No one is perfect which makes us human. Being imperfect is what makes us different than anyone else. Brene Brown’s definition on perfectionism from her book, The Gifts of Imperfection, “perfectionism is self-destructive simply because there is no such thing as perfect. Let go of who you think you’re suppose…

Written By Natasha Burke September 16, 2020 This morning I was pondering what life would look like if all of us women supported one another in what we are doing.  I know for me, working alone and not having much contact with others has been lonely at times. As a writer I am at the computer almost daily. There are times I questioned why am I doing this work and why am I doing it alone? There have been times when I wasn’t motivated to keep moving forward, but I did. It’s taking me a long time to realized that I was never meant to do the work I do…

Written by Natasha Burke August 28, 2020  Are you living your life to the fullest? Are you fulfilled in your relationships, work or career? I invite you to look at parts of your life that are not fulfilling to you. We are in this world to live Big, Bold, and Powerful. Life is too short to not be the best version of you.  I am going to share with you a couple of areas in my life where I wasn’t living my life to it’s fullest. I want you to know that this is an ongoing process, and as we are continually growing, learn, let go of things that no…

June 18, 2020 Stop comparing your body to someone else’s body. We are girls and women of all shapes and sizes.  There is not one body that looks like the other because each body is unique. We are all beautiful. Honor your beautiful body.  So exactly was in WHAT IS BODY IMAGE?  “Body Image” is the way you view yourself and how you look. Having a positive body image means that most of the timeyou see yourself accurately; you feel comfortable in your body and you feel good about the way you look. It’s also how you imagine other people see you. Our body image is a collection of thoughts, beliefs and feelings…

Self-compassion, how many of you have self-compassion? Have you been compassionate with others but when it comes to being compassionate with yourself you are not? Does this resonate with you?  I am one of those people. I have so much compassion for my friends, even strangers. I have recently realized how hard I have been on myself. I have negative chit-chat going on in my head. When I’m faced with challenges, I criticize myself. I certainly haven’t felt self- compassion when I have felt short of something that didn’t work out. I was afraid to make a mistake. I was afraid to say the wrong thing because I would be…