Written by Natasha Burke
April 9, 2018
How many times have you felt you are not enough? Where does this come from? How does it make you feel?
I am here to remind you that YOU ARE ENOUGH JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. WE ARE ENOUGH JUST THE WAY WE ARE.
SELF-LOVE- The instinct by which one’s actions are directed to the promotion of one’s own welfare or well-being.
SELF-LOVE: What Does It Mean To Love One’s Self?
“When you are compassionate with yourself, you trust in your soul, which you let guide your life. Your soul knows the geography of your destiny better than you do.”—– John O’Donohue.
SELF-LOVE- I am enough!! I Matter!
When you feel you are not enough, you are not loving yourself. When you compare yourself to someone else, you are not loving yourself. When you are in your head and your inner critic is saying you are not beautiful, worthy of love, fat, something is wrong with you, etc. you are not loving yourself. Does this sound familiar?
FEAR OF NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH
ATELOPHOBIA (A-TEL-O-PHO-BIA)– The fear of imperfection. The fear of never being good enough.
When you were born, you felt unconditionally loved by your parents. You felt safe because you were being taken care of. That unconditional love doesn’t last forever and perhaps at an early age there were events where you didn’t feel that love.
Maybe it was when you were yelled at. It is at that very moment that you identify with the thought “I am not good enough. The fear of not being good enough was then born.
The fear of not being enough affects your sense of self-power, self-esteem and self-image. Everything you attempt to do is controlled by your self imagine and how much you believe in yourself.
The fear of not being good enough destroys your confidence.
Go deep, explore where this belief system stems from. When you discover the root of this belief, you can then heal what makes you not feel enough. Be compassionate while you do this work. This will take practice. You are worth it!
THINGS THAT CAN HELP YOU TO REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH! THIS WILL TAKE PRACTICE! YOU ARE WORTH IT!
We all compare ourselves to other people, but if you could look at another person through the eyes of compassion, understanding, and see a person for who they truly are, that will take away from judgment and jealousy. Look at a person as imperfect as you are and going through their own challenges. Look at a person with love. This takes practice. You are worth it!
Don’t believe everything you think! Thoughts are thoughts, and it’s not healthy and is very exhausting to give power to those negative thoughts. If you catch yourself, try to replace the negative thought with a positive one. This takes practice. You are worth it!
Quote by Jon Kabat-Zinn, “Until you stop breathing, there’s more right with you than wrong with you.” We can always find flaws. However, there are so many more things that you can like about yourself. This takes practice. You are worth it!
You can’t feel acceptance, love and compassion from others if you are in in a state of anger, anxiety, depression or shame. We all have those moments in life. Practice saying during those times, “ love is the greatest gift that I can receive during this challenging time. This takes practice. You are worth it!
Fully accept NOW. This will help you feel satisfied with the later.
Embrace and make peace with where you are right now. Your journey toward something new will feel more peaceful, rewarding and satisfying. If you are always looking for the next…. you will not ever feel satisfied or content. This takes practice. You are worth it!
Focus on your progress rather than perfection. Focus on how far you have gone rather than how far you have left to go. When you strive for perfection and success, and when you feel that you fall short, you feel less than and worthless. Realize that you are striving for success no matter how many times you fail. Don’t beat yourself up but give yourself a pat on the back for trying, making progress, and coming as far as you have. This takes practice. You are worth it!
If you tell yourself you are worthless and unlovable it won’t make you feel worthy and loveable. Love yourself! No matter where you are in life or even if you want to make changes, LOVE YOURSELF! YOU ARE ENOUGH!
Everyday, as often as you can say, I AM ENOUGH! This takes practice. You are worth it!